Be Your Own Valentine

Valentine’s Day is all about saying “I love you” in all sorts of ways. I love that!

But you know what? I think most of forget that we need to love ourselves, too, and show love to ourselves in all sorts of ways. No, that’s not selfish. It’s essential!

Okay . . . so that probably sounds right, even if hard to do sometimes.

How about this: Eating healthfully is an act of self-love!

I think most of us think we’re loving ourselves when we buy our favorite unhealthy treats!

Valentine's candy v.s. foodSo I’d like to look at it from a different perspective, and see if it changes anything.

If we look at the bigger picture, is it really loving to give someone you love something that will ultimately harm them?

If you have a small child who really, really wants to play with scissors, is it loving to let her do that? No matter how much we know she would delight in the immediate joy of being handed the scissors, our greater wisdom and foresight, partnered with our love for her, would stop us from giving her the scissors. We know it wouldn’t be loving to put her at risk of harm.

Most of us don’t think much about the effects of the food we eat, and what we give others to eat. We think mostly about the taste. But the truth is, a huge amount of harm results from eating the Standard American Diet.

So let’s go back to loving ourselves. Eating foods that will help us feel good, enjoy great health, and have lots of energy IS an act of love!

Eating foods that will make us fat, sick, and miserable is NOT an act of love.

I think the biggest barrier to our making loving decisions for ourselves regarding food — and other lifestyle choices — is the lag time between consuming the food and experiencing the results. If we felt horribly sick within minutes of eating unhealthy food, we’d almost certainly note the correlation and have NO DESIRE to eat that food again.

But the heart attacks, strokes, diabetes, cancer, arthritis, and even obesity don’t happen instantly. We generally get to wait years before we experience these results, so we either don’t see the correlation — or it seems unimportant to us because we don’t have to “pay” right away.

woman admiring herself in mirrorSo I just invite you to take a look at what you want in life. I invite you to consciously love yourself, and think what you can do to show that love. And I invite your higher, wiser self to look at whether your food choices are truly loving. Do they contribute to the life you want to experience? Or are they actually causing you to experience more physical, emotional, and spiritual pain and suffering?

Seeing healthy eating as a true act of loving yourself takes away all the feelings of deprivation you might feel if you’re just trying to force yourself to eat better. But because of old habitual ways of thinking, as well as acting, it will help to remind yourself every time you eat that you are choosing to eat healthfully as an act of love.

Happy Valentines Day!

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15 Responses to Be Your Own Valentine

  1. Yvonne Lindblom February 14, 2014 at 1:54 PM #

    Happy Valentines Day!

    Keep up the good work. You are awesome.

    • Yvonne Lindblom February 14, 2014 at 1:56 PM #

      Happy Valentine’s Day.
      Keep up your good work. You are awesome.

  2. Anne February 14, 2014 at 3:18 PM #

    Hello Delisa,
    Happy Valentines Day to you and Charlie. This was a superb blog post in every way, especially as it makes so much sense, and really made me stop and think about food choices. Thank you for helping me re-focus. I really appreciate all you do in such a giving and caring way.

    • Delisa Renideo February 14, 2014 at 3:22 PM #

      Thanks, Anne. Sometimes we all need to regroup and refocus. Glad this helped!

    • Becky Roberts February 14, 2014 at 11:46 PM #

      Excellent advice. It’s wisdom to live by and pass on especially to our youth. Thanks for sharing.

    • jane February 18, 2014 at 7:01 PM #

      And if you have no valentines, or anyone who cares about you, nibble on celery or a carrot and bridge your woes to happiness by eating healthfully. toss the quart of icecream or bag of chocolate chips. Nibble on easy to get carrots, celery, cabbage, maybe thin slices of horseradish if you need a kick in the tastebuds. you can always pop some popcorn too. that should satisfy crunchy eaters. you can also make your own crunchy chips. water + whole wheat flour, roll out 1/8 inch thin, place on baking sheet or pizza sheet. bake 350 for about 10-15 mins. great with humus made from chick peas. options are limitless!

  3. Jaime February 14, 2014 at 4:14 PM #

    You are right.

    It sure would be nice (although that’s not a strong enough word) to see a cultural shift more in this direction.

    • Delisa Renideo February 14, 2014 at 4:23 PM #

      I believe it’s coming. The old system doesn’t work, and more and more people are suffering because of it. So as each of us make the shift ourselves, it helps the culture shift. It’s worked with other things, like smoking, and I believe it will eventually work with food.

  4. Sally AlLee February 17, 2014 at 2:32 PM #

    This really hit home, Delisa. At a family celebration of my grown granddaughter’s birthday Saturday night we ate at Outback in Anchorage. I hadn’t been there for years, but it’s her favorite, and I’d been assured that healthier food was available there now. Unfortunately I didn’t check the menu beforehand to make up my mind what I wanted. I found they did have plenty of vegetables (although not organic), including a baked sweet potato which I ordered with “NO fixin’s” rather than “fully loaded”. I couldn’t find a spinach or dark greens salad, so didn’t order one, but at her insistence shared one with my daughter (taking care to pick out only the small bits of dark romaine and leaving the cheese, croutons, iceberg lettuce and even vinegrette dressing to her.)
    But most disastrous was that I let everyone talk me into sharing their appetizers–which were French fried. I didn’t eat much, but it was enough to keep me down all the next day with acute diarrhea–very unpleasant and creating mounds of laundry. I finally consulted a health website and among suggestions for “the pink stuff” and Imodium I found info I’d forgotten: 2 tablespoons apple cider vinegar to a cup of filtered water–to be taken once or twice. By then I’d been boiling my filtered water to add no other possible contaminant to my system, so I just pulled out my Bragg’s. It seemed to work right away even though it took a whole hour to drink one cup because I was still burping, so could only sip every few minutes. Also, I’m incontinent so make frequent bathroom visits anyway. After a couple of hours I had only to urinate–no mess. To make sure it was really working (and because I was still burping) I repeated the vinegar/water dose.
    By then I was starved but remembered the B.R.A.T. recommendation for diarrhea–bananas, rice (I used brown rice), applesauce, toast (used whole wheat bread). I had all those available–and all organic. I usually drink nothing but tea and filtered water, anyway, so I dropped the tea because some of it is not organic.
    I feel fine now, but it was an unpleasant reminder to love myself enough to not be talked into eating some-thing “just this once”.

    • Delisa Renideo February 17, 2014 at 2:44 PM #

      Oh no . . I’m so sorry you had this horrible experience.

      I’m glad you got over it and can now go back to loving yourself well enough to only eat high quality foods.

      Thanks for sharing :-)

    • jane February 18, 2014 at 6:20 PM #

      oh, fried is the worst! don’t go to restaurants ever again. they serve institutional popular crowd pleasing food which is the worst! make all your food in the sanctity of your own kitchen, and leave the meat and fat out. keep with veggies and fruits, rice, grains, and be your best chef.

  5. jane February 18, 2014 at 6:13 PM #

    the upshot: there are hundreds of delicious options to eat vegetables, fruits, grains. there are only a half dozen options for meats. figure it out. do you want variety or limitation? that’s how i figure it. going vegetarian/fruitatarian is opening a whole new door to better eating! and eating plant based foods is fast in and fast out. eat meat and it stays in you for a long while, bloating, causing all kinds of backups and inconveniences in the digesting mechanism.

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